The decision to lose your virginity is one of the most important decisions you’ll make in your life. Your first time can be a beautiful and meaningful experience or a complete disaster. Here are some things to keep in mind the first time you have sex.
First time sex advice
- Before you explore your sexuality with a partner, experiment on your own. Find out what you like and dislike and make sure you have a clear understanding of how intercourse works.
- Head to a drugstore for condoms and lubrication. It’s true that your first time may hurt a bit due to the breaking of your hymen. Over the counter lubrication will help ease the discomfort and make your first time much more enjoyable. Condoms will protect you from pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases. If you feel uncomfortable making this trip to the drugstore you’re probably not ready for sex.
- Talk about your expectations and fears with your partner. Your first time should be with someone you trust. Talking about sex with your partner should be an easy, reassuring experience. If you’re not comfortable TALKING about sex with someone, you shouldn’t be HAVING sex with them!
- Don’t put too much pressure on yourself. If at any time during your first sexual encounter you feel uncomfortable you are allowed to stop. Don’t expect an earth shattering orgasm and don’t worry too much about whether or not your partner climaxes. Consider your first time an enjoyable learning experience, orgasms will come with practice.